Growing with God

 
Firstly I am going to highlight the story of Joseph, for those who are not very familiar with this story: CHECK: Genesis 37

One thing I have learnt from his story is that, He didn't fight the process but there was a lesson in every step and he was humble throughout. It was painful for him but the most important thing that was sufficient for him was in trust an faith in God. 

I have learnt to handle every moment of my life with prayers because my life is fragile without God. I spend my time chit-chatting with my heavenly father and honestly I CAN explain the experience, it is PEACEFUL and REASSURING! 

How? You may ask? (Hebrew 11:1) 

Learning to depend on God means not running to people and having a pity party about yourself! 

Their advice will not fill that void. The advice may work for that day but the next day what will you do? Run back to them again for advice? You need to LEARN to GROW by yourself and begin to love yourself in the process! 

The arms that holds the universe is holding you, how can you honestly not be at peace with that??

You are a heir to the throne of the most high(GET TO KNOW YOURSELF through Christ) Pour your heart out to God because he knows everything you're going through, he is the only one that can listen to us without getting tired and understands us 100%! 

It's funny a lot of us have that 1 friend whom we tell anything but here's a question - half of the things you tell this person, do you even tell God? Then when problem occur we say "oh God why didn't you show me this would happen?! News flash did you inform him when you made that particular decision? If you have a relationship with someone, you have to understand communication works both ways that's the same with God! You have to ask first, then he will instruct you. You can't do it, then ask him why he allowed that to happen. The BIG question is WHY didn't you tell him at first?

Shalom 

Grace 

I don’t need you, but I still want you

Firstly I know this title is probably baffling to a lot of you, but the Holy Spirit ministered this to me as I finished studying today. I was getting up to enjoy my leisure time but in between this I was speaking boldness into my life.

Don’t you find it funny that, God thugs on our heart and tries to pull us nearer for our own sake, but then we keep running, and he sits back and watch we act like we do not need him then when we want something we want him? The definite truth is we cannot choose when we want God, and when we don’t, this will lead to frustration because God is not a genie that will pop out when we want him to. Seeking the spirit without the word will not work as these two cannot be separated, because they always work together in perfect harmony.

I find myself asking this question each day “Do I love God because of what he does for me, or because of who he is?” (John 6:26-27). I am grateful to the almighty that my answer is not in the department of what he does for me.

I have learnt over the previous months, when you take time away from God, you are inviting the devil to feed you his lies, and you eventually fall into the trap of believing him, then we come running back to God and asking “WHY?” I don’t know about you but I am terrified for the day God will give me an answer to my many “WHY’s”. God should never be an option in/on our menu, he should be THE MENU.

God has called us to be dependent on him for everything, neediness is holy in the eyes of our heavenly father. In needing God we must learn to totally surrender our pride and control so that God can then mold us into the person he longs for us to be.

Shalom

Grace 

SCARS

Usually when we have a scar because we've been wounded and eventually you use (medications) to treat the wound. You pay close attention, and you ask doctors, your family what can ease the pain or make the wound heal faster and once it’s healed sometimes you can scrape off the scar to disappear from your skin and sometimes it doesn’t go away so every time you look at it, you are reminded of how you got it and how it became s scar.

So now tell me why we always beat ourselves up about our emotional scars? I know I do it, sometimes I still do it in fact, and it’s inevitable. What about that scar disgust you so much that you start stressing out once you see it again? (TAKE YOUR TIME TO THINK ABOUT THIS). You see with your physical scar you take time to treat it, why not do the same with the emotional scars? SPEAK to God, ASK him to HEAL your wound, and once he does they will eventually turn to scars or sometimes disappear but some of us will always have that mental scar. 

You should never have to look at your scars and feel more pain, NO!

Your scar is a reminder of where you’ve been and not where you are going. It is a reminder of overcoming what could have killed you or hurt you even more but God did not let it. So why do we stare at our scars and begin to ask God why?

“Why what?” Unless you’re asking God why he healed your scar, why you deserved the healing, there should be no questions? But most of us already know the answers to our questions (Psalm 106:1). Usually after God heals your scars, he gives you something new, all that you need to focus on (2 Corinthians 9:8)

Usually when you treat your physical scar careful, you begin to see changes, now you see you can take the same step for the emotional scars. You just have to replace the medication with the word of God, SPEAK to God and he will take it from there. It’s funny we trust mere man (doctors) to prescribe the right medications for the wound but sometimes we find it hard to trust God when he instructs us, when we ask for the best remedy to ease our pain. How can we ask for help, get the help? but yet still question the help?

It’s funny we ask God to heal our scars, then again we find ourselves looking at the scars and having regrets or getting mad at ourselves, or even asking God why he allowed the scars?. Be thankful for your scars, I know I used to look at my scars and cry, now I look back I can’t even explain why I was crying. It’s better to thank God when we ask him to bring us out of a situation rather than question him (1 Chronicles 16:34).

SCARS: Leads to our own personal growth. During the transition from your physical

--------------Wound                     >>>Scars

You learn about the most effective medications, or home remedy for you. That’s the same with the emotional scars. You see what suits your spirit better. Does singing uplift your spirit? , spending time with God daily helps you in letting go of your scars and appreciating them, praying with your peers?: whatever it is that works for you find out BUT don’t look at your scars and take yourself back to where God has removed you from. Appreciate your scars, Love your scars because without them? You have no story.

Blessings

Grace 

Case of The Ex

We've all had that one Ex we've tried so hard to pack our stuff and leave behind right?? And I have been wondering why it is so hard to let go of a relationship that continuously causes us pain or confusion?. I mean what is it about the pain that you love so much? I still don’t have the 100% answer.

During my process I found myself asking God to fix me, and once he does I find myself once again running back to the exact thing he saved me from. You see all this while I thought I was the problem not knowing the problem was as simple as “IT’S NOT FOR YOU”. But I kept hoping and thinking maybe just maybe, if I fix myself up and change they’ll accept me and we’ll live happily ever after.

Sis/Bro sometimes you need to take a step back from the situation and simply pray and ask God to show you what it is he’s trying to tell you. Most of the time both parties are not to blame, neither is God, it just means that relationship is NOT for you, and forcing yourself to stay and stay loving in a painful relationship will hurt you even more than the relationship itself. There were times when it couldn’t be any less obvious that God was speaking to me, but I kept ignoring it because of what I wanted and I ended up hurting myself. And guess where I turned to after that? I ran back to the same person and only one that has my interest at heart (My Redeemer).

Through my personal experience on this subject, I have learnt to really listen to God in the midst of my hardship. And it’s okay to admit and submit your feelings to God. I was not afraid to tell God how I was feeling, in fact I spoke to him about the situation more than I ever did with any of my peers.

There’s been times when all I did was cry and kept begging God to do so and so, I look back now and laugh because I know God was definitely telling me “You Gonna Learn Today”. And I did, I still am, and the lesson is to keep trusting God even if the lesson hurts because what comes after those lessons? Will surely be blessings. I have learnt to stop obsessing about the mess in the relationship or outsiders opinions. It is a blessing when God 'MOVES' you from a situation you refuse to leave. 

NOTE: God will never give you something you don't need, he is our provider, he only supplies what we NEED

The “GO” STEPS

1.      Cut all communications with your ex, what are you both talking about after the long break up? The more you speak to each other, the harder it will be to let go. Don’t suddenly call on their birthday or any occasion to start a conversation, you won’t heal if you keep focusing on them. Be civil with one another, e.g- if they say hello, say it back and keep it moving. Bitterness is not part of the spiritual fruits.

2.      Do not listen to the ‘maybe’s of getting back together one day’ because that will only stop you from focusing on God. You will spend so much time thinking about the ‘maybe’s’ and distract yourself on the present things and where God is taking you 

3.      ‘GO’ out there and find people with similar interest as yourself, networking with the right people can bring new connection. And I am not talking about a new relationship. Continue to build yourself and stay prayed up, ask God to bring people that'll help you to grow better, and live a Godly life

4.      Learn to be content with your situation, don’t look at your newlywed friends and become bitter and start crying to God, screaming where is mine. Stay strong in Christ and be content in your season. it's okay to cry when you feel tired, it is normal but don't use that as an excuse to run to God and start bickering about what your Ex did. He knows!

5. Let the PAST GO! You won't blossom unless you look ahead and wait on what God has for you. Don't start stalking your Ex on social media to see if he has a new girl. This will become a new headache. rather thank God for a new blessed day, and believe his plans for you are greater than what you can see

Blessings 
Grace

(Opinions, suggestions are welcomed)

Are You Discontent

Are You Discontent?

Definition: lack of satisfaction with one's circumstances 

As children of God, we have to learn the mystery of contentment and its power over the restless tortures of desires. Most of the time if we are not careful our desires will get us in trouble because its all about what we want rather than what we need. 

Let's look at the whole story about Jacob, Leah and her sister Rachel ( Genesis 29), Jacob was impressed the first time he met Rachel and he waited seven years just to be with her as her father wanted Jacob to marry the elder sister Leah. Rachel knew how much Jacob loved him yet she was not satisfied as Leah was able to bear children and the attention was on her rather than Rachel, her true colours began to show through her discontentment period. She was jealous of her sister and even said to Jacob "Give me a child or i will die (Gen 30:1) meaning if i don't get what i want, i will do what i like. Sometimes we always think our desires is actually what God wants for us and because we think it or want it makes it right and seems like it's truly what we need. But newsflash and good news about God is that he already has our emotional address, all we have to do is rest and wait for these things to be delivered. 

YES! It is hard but the word of God says "But they that wait upon the lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up..... ( Isaiah 40:31). I've been there, several times I've cried and I've given up but guess what? I know that giving up will not get me what i want so i run back to God and asks him to teach me how to be content with the things i have. 

The spirit of discontentment can cause more than you think, you will begin to nag, fuss, moan about everything that is not going right for you, and the things you want but you don't have, you will look at yours friends and families and begin to think "How can they have it and i don't?" and my favourite of all "I worship God all the time but still he hasn't given me they things i want". Newsflash its not about you, me, us, its about God. Discontentment will cloud your judgement and will pull you into one dark big hole and it will make you feel unworthy. Learn to be still and wait on God because when we don't? We experience needless plain due to the fact that we are running ahead of God's format. sometimes discontentment is a coy of the enemy to stop us from achieving and really striving to get to where God wants us to be, as most of us always assume that our circumstances justifies current condition in allowing us to feel miserable.

One thing i have learnt is that God will not give you what you want because of your discontentment and if he does? It's just to show you that sometimes you don't need what you think you want. As Princes and Princesses of the most high we have to learn to cling unto God during difficult circumstances as he is trustworthy ( psalm 143:10) As christians God wants us to be content because we have everything we need under his care, sometimes it just takes that BIG patience. 

This is my testimony for the week, it is NOT over until God says so. 

Shalom 

Yours Truly 

Grace Adenuga

P.S- Feel free to email me or message me if you need to chat, it can be anonymous  God bless you all x

What's In Your Closet? (Clothing)

Definition: 

Clothes- "Item worn to cover the body" 

Now that we know the meaning and use of clothing why do a lot of people buy clothes and not use it according to it's purpose?? If clothes are meant to cover the body? Why buy it if you are not going to use it for its only purpose?

Does the bible really have a dress code? No however it does offer us the principles about modesty. but don't miss the principle. Ask yourself this question and be honest with yourself and God: Why do you want to dress the way you do? What is the goal of wearing a certain outfit? If you dress yourself in the armor of God first, it should help direct you as you put o

n the rest of your clothes.

Whether you believe in God or not, Your body is not your but God (1 Corinthians 6:19). Some may say it's my body and I'm allowed to do anything and wear whatever i want YES! But not everything is good for you, this mentality only means that you are making your clothes enslave you (1 Corinthians 6:12). 

As females, we have to understand something we don't need to be half naked to feel beautiful your confidence should come from knowing that the creator of heaven and earth took the time to make you, and you are fearfully and wonderfully made. (psalm 139:14). You can put on a pair of jeans and a nice top and still look beautiful,  Yes clothe protects us and our body from heat, cold but we have to respect our body in regards to how we dress. Adam hid from God when he was naked because he knew it was wrong for others to see him naked. Females stop polluting others soul, stop chewing on worldly fruits to stay naked (Genesis 3:6-7), (1 Timothy 2:9-10) states that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control). Young girls forget if your friends are doing it, and do not listen to you even when you tell them about their dressing, you know your morals in Christ. The bible says, do not behave as unbelievers, but today we have a lot of people who try to justify their dressing . 'let there be modesty in everything'. 

Ruth 3:3 describes how Ruth dressed when she was getting to meet Boaz( her future husband). She was covered! Nowadays females feel the need to show excessive body parts just so they can impress someone but news flash, guys may look at you but that where the imagination stops. You've exposed it all. 

Personally for me I've spoken to a lot of males on this topic and ALL of them replied with "no my daughter can't and will not dress like that" when I asked them would you let your daughter leave the house in a certain way, but they also said "there's nothing wrong with wearing it" FEMALES Do you see how contradicting this statement is, they won't allow their daughter in the future to dress the way you dress but when they see you, they like what they say. 

We say God sees my heart, well he surely does because he also sees the things you up before him, you know what he's said about dressing modest and you know what that means but you keep covering it up with "God does not look at my outer appearance", some circumstances YES!! But he looks at you as a whole. Believe that.

Sometimes your dressing will allow people to judge your gift. Should that be your problem? Absolutely. You know right from wrong so why do you continuously walk in the wrong path just because you know God can use anyone! Remember many are called but few are chosen. If you know the worldly things including the way you dress keep building a wall between you and God then stop it! (Psalm 33:13, psalm 11:4). 

Blessings!
GOA

Getting out from depression (Press Through)

Get out from depression why? For you mainly, for your inner peace and for your future. Jesus died to save our souls, he didn't die for us to continuously punish our soul, spirit through depression. When it comes to trials and waiting on God we have to get out of this mentality of "I WISH God would answer me already" No! We need a backbone that will allow us to wait on God! Don't you remember what he said to us? He said "Be still and know that I am God". If his telling us something I don't understand why we don't do it. Let us wake up my brothers and sisters. Most of our problems is not spiritual problems, these problems occurs when turn deaf ears to our own issues such as bad relationships, friendships, jobs, character etc.. you're chosen by God and if you have accepted your role in Christ, expect trials and tribulation everyday but don't worry or Lose your cool. You are anointed by the Holy Spirit. (Mark 5: 24-34). The woman with the blood issue knew Jesus was amongst the huge crowd but she pressed through by finding her way to Jesus from the crowd, SHE PRESSED PAST the pain in her body just to get through to God, and God took care of her (mark 5:34)What is it that you are trying to press through right now? Press through it! Don't blame anyone for your problem, press through in faith and you'll get your spiritual muscles, that way when another issues comes your way you'll be able to muscle your way out of that situation. God will help you do it but he won't do it for you. 

 PRAYER:

Father lord give me the strength to be able to press past my depression, betrayal, self-pity the rejection I've felt from family and friends. Give me the power to let this go for my own inner peace so I can press into a new beginning with you. Amen. 

Blessings! and Happy New Month