Finding Your Purpose (in Life)

First thing I want us TO be conscious of is that, we can never be in control when it comes to life’s most crucial elements.

Finding our purpose in life is not a day, week, month, or a year job. It’s not the light bulb that just suddenly turns on when you see something. It’s a constant journey. Sometimes you will fall, sometimes you will bend or but rest assured you will keep moving no matter the pace.

 “So, God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them”.  (Genesis 1:27)

To know your purpose, is to know your history, your heritage. When you have not yet discovered your heritage, you’ll be lurking around empty nothings. You’ll look for many ways to fill the voids in jobs, partying, friends,  boyfriends, girlfriends and so on.

You wouldn’t buy an iPhone now and then go to a random phone store asking what is wrong with it, there’s just so little they can do as they are not the manufacturer. So, when searching for your purpose, you do not search for it in things God has created, you go directly to the manufacturer (God). I find It quite alarming that our generation feel that it is ‘silly or too spiritual’ to ask God things concerning our lives.

In every phone boxes, the manufacturers ensure that there is a phone booklet in the box for customers who purchase. WHY?

Answer: To learn how to work through their phone, getting help where/ when needed.

Before this idea came to fruition, there must have been many discussions with phone manufacturer, creative manager etc (I don’t know how these things work!) but my point is ‘COMMUNICATION’ which springs up ideas individually and during meeting they share. The is the same with finding your purpose, you need to talk about your urges, dreams, passion everything with God. Nobody’s saying you cannot have your own mind, but does it align with God’s plans for you?

You cannot find this on your own, you are not YOUR OWN, You belong to God and the sooner you realise this the better.

We all live in a world where most people don’t even know who they are, the world itself is lost. This is why God’s purpose for us is to ‘ Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added to you’.

It is not your job to find your purpose, it is the will of God however that you walk with in, in that he will showcase your purpose. From the moment we were born God has initiated his greatness into us

God loves us, he wants us to come to him, he wants us to ask because his thoughts for us are ‘GOOD’. God made us, he knows what’s best for us, not our parents, our friends, not even our tiny little brains.

To find your purpose, you need to partner up with Christ. It is mandatory that we develop that relationship with God, where we can differentiate and separate our urges versus God’s given instincts. It is not every opportunity that comes your way that you must take. Just because something feels natural doesn’t mean it is right for you. We need to keep asking, and be okay with the answers we are left with because truth be told Only God knows what’s best for us.

You must position yourself in Christ meaning that your ‘attitude and character’ is changed and renewed daily. When you begin to see yourself how God sees you, you’ll begin to attract the things he wants for you, you’ll begin to develop characters that will lead you to finding your purpose.

Here are three things I want us to reflect on concerning Our purpose

1.      OBEDIENCE –

God is always there for us when we need him, even when we do not deserve that Grace. Abraham and Saul both had a relationship with God, but the difference is that Abraham was obedient and Saul was not. Are you prepared to leave everything behind and walk faithfully and boldly to the unknown?

2.      AGREEMENT

Are you willing to follow God’s direction for your life, or you think you know better than the manufacturer himself? It’s quite sad that we do not argue about how things we use should be made cause funny enough, we have no direct access to the manufacturers but here we have the MANUFACTURER of all THINGS! And we tell him how he should run the life he gave us.

3.      POSITIONING

The question we all squeeze our faces over. Where are you with God? God will not reveal his plans for you, if you are not developed. It’s not because he doesn’t love or care for you, it’s more of a protection. You wouldn’t apply for college or university without the right grades or experiences would you?

So the question is where are you with Christ?. I know you go to church everyday, you sing, you dance, you pay your tithes but WHO ARE YOU IN CHRIST?, who are you when nobody is watching? Are you making the conscious effort everyday to know Christ more or you just want him to help you in finding your purpose?

Be Encouraged.

Grace  

FORGIVENESS

Something happened today, I was online and viewed a friend’s display picture talking about wanting to be better. WHY is this relevant? You’re about to find out

Sometimes we hold on to the sorry (s) we haven’t received or the other person’s deepest understanding of the pain they have caused us. Seeing my friend’s picture reminded me that we are all fighting a battle, deep within that we subconsciously and consciously use to hurt those around us, whether we like to admit it or not. It made me laugh infact because we can be so unfair in the way we expect people to be perfect for our needs without considering their struggles.

I can tell you this much, the minute I saw that picture, I felt liberated. I felt this way because I knew I was growing, because I was able to understand that their forgiveness is not what I needed, but the understanding that we are not perfect. Also knowing that we are all fighting a battle that we tend to judge each other, for instead of praying for one another. Luke 17:3, 4 states ‘So watch yourselves. "If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him. If he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times comes back to you and says, 'I repent,' forgive him." As I would normally say, you have to be okay with the apology you didn’t get, you have to be okay with it... LIFE GOES ON.

We hold on to pain at times that we actually forget to ask God, what can I do in this situation? We bury the hurt inside and in the process we also forget to guard our hearts. Sometimes we think we are over something, you think you’ve moved past it because some chapters have gone but all it takes is an association psychology for it all to come back.

It’s okay for us to have pain as we are able to reach out with compassion to others in the same situation as we are or been through BUT don’t stay in pain. Our obedience to God may lead us to suffering but it will also make us a perfect leader. A leader who loves to FORGIVE

My lesson so far is that for me to stop being thrown around by the world, I am learning to reply on God to show me what’s best for me.

KEEP LEARNING

KEEP FORGIVING

KEEP LOVING 

My attendance at church does not define my relationship with God.

I see a lot of Christians being judged and they are considered "not on fire" because they don't go to every weekday service. Can I just question those that attend?

 "Does your weekly service involve judging people or worshipping and serving your creator?"

Since we are on the matter, I would kindly like to remind each of us that, our attendance at church does not determine the quality of our relationship with Christ. In addition to that, for anyone struggling with this kind of issue, I would also like to remind you all that God’s love is not based on how many times we come to church each week. God’s love is UNCONDITIONAL.   
Why preach to those outside when those of us in the church and ripping the inside apart? 

We as Christians tend to pick which sin is greater than the other, ‘oh girl you haven’t been to church in a long time, you are not taking God seriously’ REALLY?? Does your greed, prideful, judgmental act show that you are taking God seriously? We honestly have to stop weighing one sin over the other.

REMINDER: God looks on the INSIDE
Churches are supposed to be a holy sanctuary where people are able to bring their trouble and go home with joy. In today's churches, this isn't necessarily true, churches are now becoming places where you cannot share your brokenness and struggle without the fear of condemnation from those who are supposed to lift the broken (Hebrews 10: 24-25). 

If we are truly our brothers and sisters keepers, we must learn to ASK God for help when we do not know what to say, in whatever position we are in. 

There is no point in having a higher position to help people, yet you abuse your position by continually bending the broken.

We all know and believe that God forgives us for all our sins. However, this is not in any way a ‘GO AHEAD’ card to treat others in terrible ways and God will still forgive us.  While it is true that we will surely be forgiven for such behaviour, his grace is not a LICENSE to treat others so shamefully.

This post is not to discourage anyone but to encourage and remind us all to check ourselves before we wreck ourselves. Let us continue in the act of kindness, PRAY for your neighbour. 
Act 4:12 helps me to understand that God has given no other name under heaven by which we must be saved. I see this as what A & B say about your service or worship is not what will save you. You can; call upon the name of God anywhere and in his infinite mercy? He will hear you. 

Your attendance at church is important but so is your HEART. 
Shalom 

Your hurt... God's opportunity

Being hurt is such a confusing place to be, you are stuck between getting even, crying it all out or expressing how hurt you are. Joseph's story inspires me so much because he went through all these phase and did nothing but cry unto his God. When you're hurting, everything is looked at with the big magnifying glasses and the more you think about it and dwell on it ? The more it hurts. But I want to encourage you right now as Mathew 11:28-30 ‘come to me all who labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest’. All we have to do is go to God with our hurt because his yoke is light. Unlike how neighbours who sometimes stress out our hurt, God will not do that because he does not respond to our emotions but gives us strength to handle our hurt.

Psalm 27 reminds me that and states in verse: 10 "when your father, mother ........ (Fill in) forsake you; the Lord will come to our rescue. The verse didn't say if these people hurt you, it emphasised on the "WHEN" as a confirmation that people will hurt us but God says he will never leave or forsake us. One thing I've learnt in my season is that I must keep my eyes on Christ and ask what is it that I'm supposed to learn in this process?.

This type of thinking helps me to take my eyes of those who have hurt me and focus my energy what God is trying to tell me and how I will grow in that season. Focusing too much on your hurt can even make you act out of character and now you'll create a big mess of trying to heal and trying to clean up your character. Do not create more mess while you're trying to heal, just remember that our experience sometimes isn’t about us: it's more to do with God showing his mighty hand in our lives.
I know you're thinking but Grace you don't know how much I'm hurting , they've hurt me but ask yourself this is it much more than what Christ went through ?

The enemy will try and play with your mind giving you every reason to flip out and act but don't do it. Even if you are going to confront those who hurt you?, do it by using wisdom and compassion. I've been in a place where i would lash out because i responded only to my emotions and when I look back, I just think why girl? Now you have to start over. Imagine if Joseph had acted out of character with his prison mates, he would have probably stayed in there longer than expected. This is the same when you're hurting; when you stay hurting you are leaving yourself in a prison God never intended for you. The mind itself can be used as a prison, which is why the enemy always wants us to react with our emotions and feelings. YES! Feeling the hurt is necessary, that is what makes us human but reacting using those feelings as guidelines will lead to foolishness. Romans 12:19 ‘vengeance belongs to God’ he will do the fighting, not our silly and unreliable emotions, give it all to God and he will FIX IT!


Be encouraged that God is doing far more than you can imagine in your life during the difficult seasons. There's a hidden treasure there and only those who patiently endure will see and receive it.
Stay strong and Happy
Shalom 

I Decide….

 I just couldn’t take the routine of waking up, praying and crying at the same time anymore, because I didn’t understand what was going on. I finally had enough and asked God to simply allow my pain to be productive. I didn’t understand the meaning of this when I said it out loud. 

Then I found one of my bible plan on the floor and ‘Deuteronomy 13:15’ appeared. I thought to myself ‘here we go’. So I opened the scripture and it says ‘You must attack that town and completely destroy all its inhabitants, as well as all the livestock’. You see sometimes I feel like God has got jokes! I knew exactly what that scripture meant and I was so desperate to do all those things, but just because I was willing didn’t necessarily mean it would be easy or I was ready. Let me break it down

The town that needs to be attacked is the darkest part of me, I will admit it when all you know is pain and hurt, parts of you begin to turn dark. It is not enough to ask God to clear it out without you also making the effort. The town is a new space I have created inside of me that is filled with anger, bitterness, you name it, and it’s probably all in there. The Holy Spirit ministered to me that in this time of attack, I must attack the dark town with love, light, prayer, peace, and self-acceptance. I cannot attack darkness with more darkness.

The Inhabitants – the inhabitants are those who live in that occupied town, and I know just who they are, the angry friend, the I told you so friend, the not so nice friend, those who hurt you including myself. It was always easier to hold unto the pain than to let the pain play its cause and let it go. I felt like if I allowed the inhabitants to stay in, it meant that I was still in control. But God doesn’t want that for me or you, he sees how much my pain is wrecking me and pulling me in a direction, he didn’t plan for me. I am learning to thank God for the inhabitants because they have showed me what i don't need which has allowed me to recognise true self and character

I’m the kind of person that feels, as though an apology should be given or received before everything and anything seemed real. However, I have learnt that, that attitude is the one thing that will continue to hold you back from where God wants to take you. When you hold on painful or negative energy, it will continue to drain you because you are demanding too much from a situation whereby, you have no control over.

 In fact it showed me that i was allowing my ego to dictate to me, and I really didn’t want this anymore. All I desire is to keep running, running to God because no matter how my attitude keeps me from him? God keeps pulling me closer, though the way he does it may be uncomfortable but he never forces.

It’s easier to be upset at your situation especially when you know, you gave the best of the best but you feel as though nothing good came out of it. But I am here to let you know that you are wrong, something good came out of that, Growth came out of it, protection from God came out of that, Healing came out of that. We may never understand his ways but one thing that we should be comforted by is that, he loves us and wants to fill every single void in us with what he is about and who he is. You may not see it now, but it will reveal itself, and sometimes the growth, protection and healing are not for you but for others. Sometimes the strong must bear the infirmity for the weak.

I no longer ask God to take my pain away because pain takes you to a position where you are able to identify your purpose, I simply ask for strength during my process. I realised I couldn’t attract growth if all I was looking for, was the easy way out or comfort. God uses us how he wants, sometimes we are to be broken to be used, and other times we are to be strong to be used. Either way God has the final say.

We have to see ourselves as vessels of the most high, and with that been said, we cannot be used if we are so filled with anger or bitterness, envy from things that have taken so much from us. We are precious to God, so we need to continue to remind ourselves, of who we are to him.

I don’t know where I am going, or where he is taking me, still I will follow because I refuse to go back.

Shalom 

Healing

Growth happens when you are prepared to learn from a bad experience regardless of how you feel about it. I have learnt that you cannot be afraid of the process, the pain. You have to allow God to use your pain to renew you, meaning you are in total surrender of his will for you at that moment and you let go and let God. 

it is easier to run back to the pain because it is easier than feeling the pain itself, but you couldn't be more wrong. If you keep running back? you will never see what the future holds, or the lesson is about to bless you with. It takes trusting in our heavenly father and having faith in what he is doing. 

STEP 1 - If your experience is not giving you what you rightfully believe you deserve? PRAY & Let God. what this means is you accept your situation, without trying to help God in turning your situation around. IT IS NOT YOUR JOB

STEP 2 - BE FIRM IN YOUR IDENTITY - Know who you are, if you know yourself? no one can tag you in a team you clearly do not belong to. The scriptures state that :"You are the light of the world- like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden". We all know the purpose of light in the darkness. When you find your identity in christ ? all there is for you is to let your light shine. 
Do not let the opinions of others diminish that because, in the long run, you will find out that their opinion really has nothing to do with you or your purpose on earth. And while you're firm in your identity? it is not your duty in telling people about who or what you are. Light speaks for itself in darkness. 

STEP 3- Guard your heart - When you don't guard your heart? you don't know your worth because you allow anything into your heart, you allow people to bring you out of your character. 

STEP 4- EMBRACE THE PAIN - I know this sounds crazy, but this is the only way that can quicken the process, accept your situation for what it is. If someone hurts you? and never apologise? so be it, leave it to God. Your job is not to convince anyway about what they have put you through. your healing is about YOU. 

STEP 5- DO NOT COMPARE - Do not compare yourself to another sister or brother, you do not have to belittle yourself because of what you are going through. You need to allow the word of God to build your confidence, You need to remember that you are loved and valued, and bought at a price. So allowing others including yourself to speak negativity into your life? is not permitted, neither is it God's plan for you. 

Shalom 

Total Surrender

Before my walk with God, I can honestly admit that I never thought about his love towards me, I was too busy filling my empty void with pointless and empty relationships just to fill my empty void. When things did not go as I wanted, I would start torturing myself saying God does not love me and not happy with me. I would cry and nag and nag asking him ‘WHY?’ people told me you loved me so why did you let this happen? You can clearly see where I went wrong, why should anyone have to tell me my heavenly father loves me?

One day, the Holy Spirit convicted my heart and explained to me that I was trying to find happiness in empty things and I cannot discover my happiness until I am in the right relationship with God. I was truly confused because I thought my heart was with God all along, however the mistake I made, just like anyone was loving God when things went my way, and when they stopped going the way I wanted? I would come off the ‘His radar’.

I realised I was still empty even trying to do things myself, I desperately disliked the emptiness I felt, so I got on my knees and asked for forgiveness. Through this experience, I learnt that the only way you can fill a void is by giving it to the one who created you and created that void also.

Giving yourself to God means giving everything to God, it means being content with everything the lord is allowing us to go through without resentment because you will find that the void will become bigger. I am a runner, I run from everything that does not make sense to me, but it eventually reached a stage where I had to question my destination. Where am I running to? (Psalm 139:41).

Trusting God in our situations does not mean he will tell us what we want to hear and we cannot fight God with our emotions, as he does not respond to our ‘nagging emotions’. This does not mean that God does not love us, what this mean is that he is not satisfied with nor will he accept our fleshly behaviour. Not our will but ‘thy will be done’.

Shalom

Kneel before speech

Hi everyone

Unfortunately I won't be able to post as much due to my busy schedule but I will try my best to pop on as much as I can.

In other news, I have learnt a valuable lesson this week that I believe will stick to me until the end of time.

"KNEEL BEFORE SPEECH" . The simplest way for me to interpret this is, if you are about to make a decision while your emotions are fluctuating, Please take a step back from your so called BIG picture and get on your knees and speak to your heavenly father before making any permanent decision.

As females or even human being, we tend to think we know what we are doing when our emotions are all over the place, its like having the same plaster for about weeks on the same wound, if you do not pay attention the wound, how will you know if it's healing or not?. We tend to not pay attention to the lesson and how much our emotions is taking over our situation and once the damage is done, its like the plaster has not been taken off and you can see the big mess at the bottom.

However once a mistake is made, God is all loving and forgiving, Kneel before God but without complaints. Its an insult to complaint at God as it is an act of unbelief towards him.  Accept your doings as this will bring you true peace.

Acknowledge your wrongs and ask God to fix it, but also you must check yourself. Checking yourself starts with a change in your behaviour, and this begins with a change in the heart.

Shalom
G

V.O.T.D

V.O.T.D - Voice Of The Day















Holding on to the hurt will only harm you, it's a decision you have to make! So go ahead exhale, and release forgiveness (Mathew 6:12-15)



I pray this blesses your spirit as much as it has blessed mine.



shalom 

Grace

God exalts

                        Man will pop your bubble but God exalts and demotes (John 14:23)

Growing with God

 
Firstly I am going to highlight the story of Joseph, for those who are not very familiar with this story: CHECK: Genesis 37

One thing I have learnt from his story is that, He didn't fight the process but there was a lesson in every step and he was humble throughout. It was painful for him but the most important thing that was sufficient for him was in trust an faith in God. 

I have learnt to handle every moment of my life with prayers because my life is fragile without God. I spend my time chit-chatting with my heavenly father and honestly I CAN explain the experience, it is PEACEFUL and REASSURING! 

How? You may ask? (Hebrew 11:1) 

Learning to depend on God means not running to people and having a pity party about yourself! 

Their advice will not fill that void. The advice may work for that day but the next day what will you do? Run back to them again for advice? You need to LEARN to GROW by yourself and begin to love yourself in the process! 

The arms that holds the universe is holding you, how can you honestly not be at peace with that??

You are a heir to the throne of the most high(GET TO KNOW YOURSELF through Christ) Pour your heart out to God because he knows everything you're going through, he is the only one that can listen to us without getting tired and understands us 100%! 

It's funny a lot of us have that 1 friend whom we tell anything but here's a question - half of the things you tell this person, do you even tell God? Then when problem occur we say "oh God why didn't you show me this would happen?! News flash did you inform him when you made that particular decision? If you have a relationship with someone, you have to understand communication works both ways that's the same with God! You have to ask first, then he will instruct you. You can't do it, then ask him why he allowed that to happen. The BIG question is WHY didn't you tell him at first?

Shalom 

Grace 

I don’t need you, but I still want you

Firstly I know this title is probably baffling to a lot of you, but the Holy Spirit ministered this to me as I finished studying today. I was getting up to enjoy my leisure time but in between this I was speaking boldness into my life.

Don’t you find it funny that, God thugs on our heart and tries to pull us nearer for our own sake, but then we keep running, and he sits back and watch we act like we do not need him then when we want something we want him? The definite truth is we cannot choose when we want God, and when we don’t, this will lead to frustration because God is not a genie that will pop out when we want him to. Seeking the spirit without the word will not work as these two cannot be separated, because they always work together in perfect harmony.

I find myself asking this question each day “Do I love God because of what he does for me, or because of who he is?” (John 6:26-27). I am grateful to the almighty that my answer is not in the department of what he does for me.

I have learnt over the previous months, when you take time away from God, you are inviting the devil to feed you his lies, and you eventually fall into the trap of believing him, then we come running back to God and asking “WHY?” I don’t know about you but I am terrified for the day God will give me an answer to my many “WHY’s”. God should never be an option in/on our menu, he should be THE MENU.

God has called us to be dependent on him for everything, neediness is holy in the eyes of our heavenly father. In needing God we must learn to totally surrender our pride and control so that God can then mold us into the person he longs for us to be.

Shalom

Grace 

SCARS

Usually when we have a scar because we've been wounded and eventually you use (medications) to treat the wound. You pay close attention, and you ask doctors, your family what can ease the pain or make the wound heal faster and once it’s healed sometimes you can scrape off the scar to disappear from your skin and sometimes it doesn’t go away so every time you look at it, you are reminded of how you got it and how it became s scar.

So now tell me why we always beat ourselves up about our emotional scars? I know I do it, sometimes I still do it in fact, and it’s inevitable. What about that scar disgust you so much that you start stressing out once you see it again? (TAKE YOUR TIME TO THINK ABOUT THIS). You see with your physical scar you take time to treat it, why not do the same with the emotional scars? SPEAK to God, ASK him to HEAL your wound, and once he does they will eventually turn to scars or sometimes disappear but some of us will always have that mental scar. 

You should never have to look at your scars and feel more pain, NO!

Your scar is a reminder of where you’ve been and not where you are going. It is a reminder of overcoming what could have killed you or hurt you even more but God did not let it. So why do we stare at our scars and begin to ask God why?

“Why what?” Unless you’re asking God why he healed your scar, why you deserved the healing, there should be no questions? But most of us already know the answers to our questions (Psalm 106:1). Usually after God heals your scars, he gives you something new, all that you need to focus on (2 Corinthians 9:8)

Usually when you treat your physical scar careful, you begin to see changes, now you see you can take the same step for the emotional scars. You just have to replace the medication with the word of God, SPEAK to God and he will take it from there. It’s funny we trust mere man (doctors) to prescribe the right medications for the wound but sometimes we find it hard to trust God when he instructs us, when we ask for the best remedy to ease our pain. How can we ask for help, get the help? but yet still question the help?

It’s funny we ask God to heal our scars, then again we find ourselves looking at the scars and having regrets or getting mad at ourselves, or even asking God why he allowed the scars?. Be thankful for your scars, I know I used to look at my scars and cry, now I look back I can’t even explain why I was crying. It’s better to thank God when we ask him to bring us out of a situation rather than question him (1 Chronicles 16:34).

SCARS: Leads to our own personal growth. During the transition from your physical

--------------Wound                     >>>Scars

You learn about the most effective medications, or home remedy for you. That’s the same with the emotional scars. You see what suits your spirit better. Does singing uplift your spirit? , spending time with God daily helps you in letting go of your scars and appreciating them, praying with your peers?: whatever it is that works for you find out BUT don’t look at your scars and take yourself back to where God has removed you from. Appreciate your scars, Love your scars because without them? You have no story.

Blessings

Grace 

Case of The Ex

We've all had that one Ex we've tried so hard to pack our stuff and leave behind right?? And I have been wondering why it is so hard to let go of a relationship that continuously causes us pain or confusion?. I mean what is it about the pain that you love so much? I still don’t have the 100% answer.

During my process I found myself asking God to fix me, and once he does I find myself once again running back to the exact thing he saved me from. You see all this while I thought I was the problem not knowing the problem was as simple as “IT’S NOT FOR YOU”. But I kept hoping and thinking maybe just maybe, if I fix myself up and change they’ll accept me and we’ll live happily ever after.

Sis/Bro sometimes you need to take a step back from the situation and simply pray and ask God to show you what it is he’s trying to tell you. Most of the time both parties are not to blame, neither is God, it just means that relationship is NOT for you, and forcing yourself to stay and stay loving in a painful relationship will hurt you even more than the relationship itself. There were times when it couldn’t be any less obvious that God was speaking to me, but I kept ignoring it because of what I wanted and I ended up hurting myself. And guess where I turned to after that? I ran back to the same person and only one that has my interest at heart (My Redeemer).

Through my personal experience on this subject, I have learnt to really listen to God in the midst of my hardship. And it’s okay to admit and submit your feelings to God. I was not afraid to tell God how I was feeling, in fact I spoke to him about the situation more than I ever did with any of my peers.

There’s been times when all I did was cry and kept begging God to do so and so, I look back now and laugh because I know God was definitely telling me “You Gonna Learn Today”. And I did, I still am, and the lesson is to keep trusting God even if the lesson hurts because what comes after those lessons? Will surely be blessings. I have learnt to stop obsessing about the mess in the relationship or outsiders opinions. It is a blessing when God 'MOVES' you from a situation you refuse to leave. 

NOTE: God will never give you something you don't need, he is our provider, he only supplies what we NEED

The “GO” STEPS

1.      Cut all communications with your ex, what are you both talking about after the long break up? The more you speak to each other, the harder it will be to let go. Don’t suddenly call on their birthday or any occasion to start a conversation, you won’t heal if you keep focusing on them. Be civil with one another, e.g- if they say hello, say it back and keep it moving. Bitterness is not part of the spiritual fruits.

2.      Do not listen to the ‘maybe’s of getting back together one day’ because that will only stop you from focusing on God. You will spend so much time thinking about the ‘maybe’s’ and distract yourself on the present things and where God is taking you 

3.      ‘GO’ out there and find people with similar interest as yourself, networking with the right people can bring new connection. And I am not talking about a new relationship. Continue to build yourself and stay prayed up, ask God to bring people that'll help you to grow better, and live a Godly life

4.      Learn to be content with your situation, don’t look at your newlywed friends and become bitter and start crying to God, screaming where is mine. Stay strong in Christ and be content in your season. it's okay to cry when you feel tired, it is normal but don't use that as an excuse to run to God and start bickering about what your Ex did. He knows!

5. Let the PAST GO! You won't blossom unless you look ahead and wait on what God has for you. Don't start stalking your Ex on social media to see if he has a new girl. This will become a new headache. rather thank God for a new blessed day, and believe his plans for you are greater than what you can see

Blessings 
Grace

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Are You Discontent

Are You Discontent?

Definition: lack of satisfaction with one's circumstances 

As children of God, we have to learn the mystery of contentment and its power over the restless tortures of desires. Most of the time if we are not careful our desires will get us in trouble because its all about what we want rather than what we need. 

Let's look at the whole story about Jacob, Leah and her sister Rachel ( Genesis 29), Jacob was impressed the first time he met Rachel and he waited seven years just to be with her as her father wanted Jacob to marry the elder sister Leah. Rachel knew how much Jacob loved him yet she was not satisfied as Leah was able to bear children and the attention was on her rather than Rachel, her true colours began to show through her discontentment period. She was jealous of her sister and even said to Jacob "Give me a child or i will die (Gen 30:1) meaning if i don't get what i want, i will do what i like. Sometimes we always think our desires is actually what God wants for us and because we think it or want it makes it right and seems like it's truly what we need. But newsflash and good news about God is that he already has our emotional address, all we have to do is rest and wait for these things to be delivered. 

YES! It is hard but the word of God says "But they that wait upon the lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up..... ( Isaiah 40:31). I've been there, several times I've cried and I've given up but guess what? I know that giving up will not get me what i want so i run back to God and asks him to teach me how to be content with the things i have. 

The spirit of discontentment can cause more than you think, you will begin to nag, fuss, moan about everything that is not going right for you, and the things you want but you don't have, you will look at yours friends and families and begin to think "How can they have it and i don't?" and my favourite of all "I worship God all the time but still he hasn't given me they things i want". Newsflash its not about you, me, us, its about God. Discontentment will cloud your judgement and will pull you into one dark big hole and it will make you feel unworthy. Learn to be still and wait on God because when we don't? We experience needless plain due to the fact that we are running ahead of God's format. sometimes discontentment is a coy of the enemy to stop us from achieving and really striving to get to where God wants us to be, as most of us always assume that our circumstances justifies current condition in allowing us to feel miserable.

One thing i have learnt is that God will not give you what you want because of your discontentment and if he does? It's just to show you that sometimes you don't need what you think you want. As Princes and Princesses of the most high we have to learn to cling unto God during difficult circumstances as he is trustworthy ( psalm 143:10) As christians God wants us to be content because we have everything we need under his care, sometimes it just takes that BIG patience. 

This is my testimony for the week, it is NOT over until God says so. 

Shalom 

Yours Truly 

Grace Adenuga

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What's In Your Closet? (Clothing)

Definition: 

Clothes- "Item worn to cover the body" 

Now that we know the meaning and use of clothing why do a lot of people buy clothes and not use it according to it's purpose?? If clothes are meant to cover the body? Why buy it if you are not going to use it for its only purpose?

Does the bible really have a dress code? No however it does offer us the principles about modesty. but don't miss the principle. Ask yourself this question and be honest with yourself and God: Why do you want to dress the way you do? What is the goal of wearing a certain outfit? If you dress yourself in the armor of God first, it should help direct you as you put o

n the rest of your clothes.

Whether you believe in God or not, Your body is not your but God (1 Corinthians 6:19). Some may say it's my body and I'm allowed to do anything and wear whatever i want YES! But not everything is good for you, this mentality only means that you are making your clothes enslave you (1 Corinthians 6:12). 

As females, we have to understand something we don't need to be half naked to feel beautiful your confidence should come from knowing that the creator of heaven and earth took the time to make you, and you are fearfully and wonderfully made. (psalm 139:14). You can put on a pair of jeans and a nice top and still look beautiful,  Yes clothe protects us and our body from heat, cold but we have to respect our body in regards to how we dress. Adam hid from God when he was naked because he knew it was wrong for others to see him naked. Females stop polluting others soul, stop chewing on worldly fruits to stay naked (Genesis 3:6-7), (1 Timothy 2:9-10) states that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control). Young girls forget if your friends are doing it, and do not listen to you even when you tell them about their dressing, you know your morals in Christ. The bible says, do not behave as unbelievers, but today we have a lot of people who try to justify their dressing . 'let there be modesty in everything'. 

Ruth 3:3 describes how Ruth dressed when she was getting to meet Boaz( her future husband). She was covered! Nowadays females feel the need to show excessive body parts just so they can impress someone but news flash, guys may look at you but that where the imagination stops. You've exposed it all. 

Personally for me I've spoken to a lot of males on this topic and ALL of them replied with "no my daughter can't and will not dress like that" when I asked them would you let your daughter leave the house in a certain way, but they also said "there's nothing wrong with wearing it" FEMALES Do you see how contradicting this statement is, they won't allow their daughter in the future to dress the way you dress but when they see you, they like what they say. 

We say God sees my heart, well he surely does because he also sees the things you up before him, you know what he's said about dressing modest and you know what that means but you keep covering it up with "God does not look at my outer appearance", some circumstances YES!! But he looks at you as a whole. Believe that.

Sometimes your dressing will allow people to judge your gift. Should that be your problem? Absolutely. You know right from wrong so why do you continuously walk in the wrong path just because you know God can use anyone! Remember many are called but few are chosen. If you know the worldly things including the way you dress keep building a wall between you and God then stop it! (Psalm 33:13, psalm 11:4). 

Blessings!
GOA

Getting out from depression (Press Through)

Get out from depression why? For you mainly, for your inner peace and for your future. Jesus died to save our souls, he didn't die for us to continuously punish our soul, spirit through depression. When it comes to trials and waiting on God we have to get out of this mentality of "I WISH God would answer me already" No! We need a backbone that will allow us to wait on God! Don't you remember what he said to us? He said "Be still and know that I am God". If his telling us something I don't understand why we don't do it. Let us wake up my brothers and sisters. Most of our problems is not spiritual problems, these problems occurs when turn deaf ears to our own issues such as bad relationships, friendships, jobs, character etc.. you're chosen by God and if you have accepted your role in Christ, expect trials and tribulation everyday but don't worry or Lose your cool. You are anointed by the Holy Spirit. (Mark 5: 24-34). The woman with the blood issue knew Jesus was amongst the huge crowd but she pressed through by finding her way to Jesus from the crowd, SHE PRESSED PAST the pain in her body just to get through to God, and God took care of her (mark 5:34)What is it that you are trying to press through right now? Press through it! Don't blame anyone for your problem, press through in faith and you'll get your spiritual muscles, that way when another issues comes your way you'll be able to muscle your way out of that situation. God will help you do it but he won't do it for you. 

 PRAYER:

Father lord give me the strength to be able to press past my depression, betrayal, self-pity the rejection I've felt from family and friends. Give me the power to let this go for my own inner peace so I can press into a new beginning with you. Amen. 

Blessings! and Happy New Month